The medication you’ve taken for years can turn on you.
Recently my 90-year-old father began suffering from dizzy spells and falling. Thank goodness he hasn’t hurt himself seriously, and he’s in rehab to get his strength back. The culprit? He had been taking a blood pressure medication for years, and was recently prescribed an anticoagulant by a different doctor, which he filled at new pharmacy. No one checked his medication history, so he took both together. Uh-oh! That drug interaction caused the dizziness and balance problems, and could have led to seizures and uncontrolled bleeding. When we stopped the obsolete blood pressure drug (that he no longer even needed!), his equilibrium returned.
It’s not just prescription medications.
Over-the-counter medications for colds, headache, and other minor ailments can have powerful effects in interaction with each other and with prescription drugs, and even vitamins and herbal remedies can cause unforeseen problems. Taking Tylenol (acetaminophen) with multi-symptom cold syrups, naproxen (“Aleve”) with or too soon after ibuprofen (“Motrin”) or aspirin, or anti-diarrheal remedies taken with your regular calcium supplement can all result in life-threatening complications.
Does your mom have a problem she’s afraid to tell you about?
Brought up in a simpler time when people answered the door without a care and considered a ringing phone a special occasion, seniors can be vulnerable to the lowest of the low—fraudsters that prey on the elderly. Because they are sociable and often lacking in companionship, it’s easy for bad actors to initiate a pleasant conversation with a lonely senior and painstakingly develop a seemingly deep friendship. Then, gradually, those friendly chats may reveal sensitive financial information, minor requests for favors can snowball into extortion, or a “young relative in trouble at the border” may urgently need a large sum of money “to pay bail.” Scams like these can lead to a victim being deceived into losing their financial security.
Another approach that successfully targets seniors is fraudulent “official” letters and emails, including threats from “The IRS” or other scary agencies. The frauds are old (the “Nigerian Prince” scam dates back to the early 1900s!), but the methods change with the times, and infect the internet, email, and social media. So what should you do?
Don’t get angry, yell, or insult the victim.
Work quickly to minimize the damage, help them file a report with law enforcement, and sympathize. After all, fraud can happen to anyone, young or old.
Nagging your parents is counterproductive.
What senior doesn’t proudly cherish their independence? Who wants to be lectured by the child they used to diaper? No, making your elderly loved one feel foolish or helpless will only make them shut out your advice. Instead:
You have a busy life, but you need to protect your family. Talk to your elderly relatives regularly, and ask about their lives. If they mention new friends or are worried about money or a bill, dig a little, and find out what you can. Help them balance their checkbook or work on their budget. Know who they make out checks to, and watch out for unusual spending patterns.
Remind them that they didn’t enter any contest, that there’s never a fee to collect a prize, or that government agencies never demand information they already have on file or require payment in gift cards. Let them come to their own conclusion about that call, letter, or email.
Encourage them to share, not hide, their experience.
Fraudsters often work entire senior housing complexes or lists of likely victims. Help your loved ones to get over their pain of loss by helping others avoid the traps. They will be ready to share their story at their next get-together with friends, if they haven’t been made to feel stupid.
Take steps to protect.
You can help them secure their lives. Install antivirus software on their computer, opt them out of mailing lists, and check their credit reports with them regularly. And there are fraud hotlines run by reputable groups like AARP and major insurance companies and banks.
Have a safe day!
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